Good divorce help eases the pain


When considering divorce, help from professional advisers with expertise in the different areas of matrimonial law is advisable as unexpected complications often arise.

The first professional to be consulted is usually a divorce lawyer, whether a solicitor in a general practice or a specialist niche firm which deals only in matrimonial and family law matters.

While most lawyers can offer advice on divorce, help with some of the more intricate financial details is best dealt with by specialist accountants or auditors, particularly if complicated business matters are involved or valuable assets must be fairly divided.

A specialist divorce lawyer will have the experience and knowledge to advise which other professionals should be engaged and will be able to make suggestions on whom to approach, depending on the complexity of the relationship and the arrangements to be made. For the best outcome for all parties, it is advisable to instruct professionals who can work well together.

Of all the aspects to be negotiated, one of the most difficult is the arrangements for children following their parents’ divorce. Help is often needed for children to accept the new situation, with continued reassurance to minimise lasting emotional damage.

There has been a move over recent years to settle as much between the parties by mutual agreement as possible, particularly when arrangements for children are being considered, as both parents continue to have equal legal responsibility for children regardless of with which parent the children live.

Many divorce lawyers believe that engaging a mediator or family therapist to discuss emotional issues assists couples considering divorce. Help with emotional and practical support on all aspects of divorce is available from specially trained counsellors either working in an independent capacity or as part of a family law practice or a wide range of other organisations, some of which are government-funded.